How to enjoy life as a new parent
‘SLEEP‘ when the baby sleeps’, ‘ban visitors for the first couple of days’ and ‘fill the freezer with homemade meals’ are among the most useful bits of advice mums received during pregnancy, a study has found.
Other top tips according to the poll of 1,400 mums, are ‘breast is best’, and ‘don’t worry about the housework’.
Overall researchers found 84 per cent of mums found the pearls of wisdom shared by family, friends and health professionals useful when they were expecting.
And mum really does know best when it comes to giving advice, with half turning to their own mother for help, although women also go to websites for key information when expecting a child.
It also emerged the average mum actively went in search of hints and tips from books, apps, websites and forums for up to 26 minutes every day during pregnancy.
A spokeswoman for Pregnacare vitamins, which commissioned the research, said: “It’s wonderful to hear that despite living in the internet age, a woman’s best source of advice for pregnancy is still her mum.
“There can be so much advice on offer for expectant mums, it can be a little overwhelming – particularly if it is your first pregnancy.
“So, it’s interesting to see exactly what advice people consider to be the best they received.
“Women often tell us that they were recommended to take Pregnacare by their mum, a friend or relative.
“It is heart-warming to know that the best advice is shared and passed down through the generations and we now have Pregnacare mums telling us that their mums also took Pregnacare before they were born.”
The top 20 list of good advice for pregnancy also includes ‘don’t Google everything’, ‘don’t eat for two’ and ‘make sure you allow time for a nap’.
‘Try not to compare your pregnancy to everyone else’ made 20 per cent of mums-to-be feel much better about things.
While a further 19 per cent appreciated being ‘it’s okay to ask for help’ by others.
Other pearls of wisdoms mums found reassuring upon the arrival of their baby included ‘don’t rush to lose the baby weight’, ‘talk about how you’re feeling’ and ‘speak to the midwife or health visitor if you have any concerns’.
Advice to get into a routine as soon as possible, and to enjoy the new baby as everything goes by so quickly was also considered invaluable.
However, despite many women appreciating the advice they were given during pregnancy and after, the study shows more than six in 10 found some guidance conflicting.
Thirty-eight per cent of mums were confused as to whether a dummy was a good or bad option, while the same percentage received differing information about bottle and breastfeeding.
A quarter were told different things about drinking alcohol when expecting, and 27 per cent weren’t sure about making a birth plan.
Similarly, 24 per cent of mums were unsure whether co-sleeping with the new born was a good idea.
As such, more than half of mums stopped listening to some advice they were given due to its conflicted nature.
The spokeswoman for Pregnacare added: “The results are not surprising, since its vital mums to be, go to a trusted source of information.
“So, as well as their health professional who could be more trusted than their own mums?”
TOP 20 BEST PIECES OF ADVICE
1. Sleep when the baby sleeps
2. Try to get into a routine
3. Enjoy your baby as it goes so quickly
4. Do what feel right for you and your baby
5. Breast is best
6. Try not to compare your pregnancy to everyone else
7. It’s OK to ask for help
8. Don’t make a birth plan
9. Don’t give them a dummy
10. Don’t Google everything
11. Don’t eat for two
12. Ban visitors in the first couple of days so you can have time with your new baby alone
13. Make sure you allow time for a nap
14. Don’t worry about the housework after the birth
15. Accept all offers of help from family and friends
16. Don’t rush to lose the baby weight
17. Speak to your midwife/health visitor/GP if you have any concerns
18. Fill the freezer with homemade meals before the baby arrives
19. Be prepared to feel overjoyed, terrified and overwhelmed all at once /Be prepared for a flood of mixed emotions after the birth
20. Talk about how you’re feeling/how you’re coping (good or bad)